i used to subscribe for Young Parents magazine but i stop it now! i can read this magazine from the library for free :p this is the link for website.
but anyway yesterday while waiting for my daughter in KK, i found the October edition for the young parents and found this interesting article. i took photo for each pages so i can read it at home and post it here on my blog. i want to remember each point of it therefore i blog it.
what is it? it’s your child belief in her own abilities, talents and problem solving skills. Confidence gives her the drive to tackle fresh challenges and learn new ideas. it creates a “can do” attitude in all areas of her life.
why does it matter? confidence has a significant effect on your child’s development because it influences her motivation, drive to achieve and relationships with others. a confident child is typically happy, popular, and thoroughly enjoys her daily activities and opportunities.
how can you encourage it?
- emphasis strengths, point out for example that she is good at music, or that she has friendly nature. she may not realise that others value these skills.
- take small steps, when she is faced with a large challenge, sugest to her that she breaks it up into lots of little steps, which she can deal with one at a time
- enjoy success achieving a target is the best boost to your child’s confidence. set experiences the pleasure or success
- make loving contact a warm loving hug is very fundamental way of telling your child you love her and that you think she is marvellous
what is it? it’s a personal attractiveness a quality that makes a child interesting to others, thereby giving them the ability to influence them. it’s a type of personal magnetism and genuine charm. a charismatic child makes a good leader and naturally stands out in a group.
why does it matter? charisma is one of the qualities that typically underpin good leaders, teachers and entrepreneurs. charismatic children are excellent communicators, emotionally intelligent, and aware of their own feeling and that of others.
how to encourage it?
- verbalise feelings, when your child has something on her mind, or is upset about something ask her to tell you what she’s feeling inside
- positive boy language encourage her to make good eye contact with others, use facial expressions, stand and hold her head up
- reflect other’s feeling suggest to your child that she lets the other person know she understands her feeling, for instance “i can see you are upset today”
- be respectful remind your child she should always behave respectfully to others, to treat them the way she wants to be treated.
- express idea, when your child has an idea, she should explain it to her friends and then be able to answer confidently any question they may raise.
what is it? it makes your child genuinely care about those around her, friends, family and the extended community. she is kind and considerate, and does what she can to relieve the distress of other people. she cares about ecology and injustices.
why does it matter? a compasionate child acts to make the world a better place. she comforts an unhappy friend, lifts up a small child who has fallen over, gets involved in charities and specifically urges everyone to value the world’s limited resources.
how you can encourage it?
- ask her to help when you notice that her little brothers is upset because he can’t finish his jigsaw ask your child to help him
- discuss world issue chat with her for instance about poverty in 3rd world countries and talk about what is mut be like to live in such harsh condition
- be charitable let your child pick a charity that interest her, in order that she can donate a small part of her pocket money to it
- recycle develop a recycling strategy for your household. she can help sort the waste into the various categories before collection
- watch pro-social media, a further boost to your child’s compassion comes from watching TV programmes and movies that have a non aggresive, caring theme
what is it? it is the extent to which your child looks at the world around her in new exciting and original ways. some children are more creative than others, but everyone is capable of being creative in some ways.
why does it matter? although you probably think of creativity mainly in terms of drawing, painting and music, it is also important in learning, understanding and problem solving. a creative child “thinks out of the box” and finds new and innovative solutions to old problems.
how can you encourage it?
- praise her imaginative efforts give her lots of reassurance and praise when she is creative. display her creative artwork somewhere at home.
- ask creative questions, for example you can say to her ‘will you show me all the different ways you can play with this toy?
- identify talents, encourage your child’s natural abilities, whether in the area of music, drawing, painting, sports and dance.
- show by example what ever your creative interests share them with your growing child so that she accepts creativity as part and parcel of everyday life
- encourage free play, this allows her to develop new ideas without any restraint and offers her the chance to let her imagination take flight
what is it? it’s your child relationship with the world around her. it includes friendship at school, sibbling relationships, family relationships and the extent to which she participates in her local community.
why does it matter? you child will enjoy life more and be better valued by others, when she has a broad range of social connnections. her day will be full of contact with her peers, she will have great fun and feel fullfilled socially and emotionally through these different links.
how you can encourage it?
- know who your child’s friends are find out what they do when they are together. discourage friendship that concern you.
- get your child involved let her engage in a broad range of social activities, so that she mixes with her pals but attends organised group activities
- have a connection she should have some association with a community group such as a support group for older residents
- develop communication skills practice with her so she can speak confidently and clearly to individuals as well as groups
- don’t let sibling rivalry ferment if there is tension between her and her brother, do what you can to help them resolve their disagreement,